Dating after being widowed | Mumsnet

I’ve been on and off mn all day today and have seen several threads where bereaved people have gone on to date. I’d love to have a discussion about dating in these circumstances. Or about finding people to date!

I’m 59 and its now nearly 7 years since I lost my dh. I’m not entirely sure that I’m ready to date even now – but my question is where do you find partners that you actually want?!

I have had a very short relationship since dh died and I was admittedly sad about that one ending. And I’ve had several invitations which I’ve declined, and various compliments which I’ve appreciated – but they’ve not been from people I’d be interested in dating.

I just can’t see that I will ever find anyone who will tick the boxes I want ticked so I’m really interested in where people find new partners particularly at our age.

I don’t even really know if I actually want a partner, and I wouldn’t do online dating. But I also am not sure I want to live the rest of my life without love and intimacy.